O.K. time for some good news – the fact that you’re searching and trying to figure out how to get your ex boyfriend back online is a guarantee you’ll avoid some awful mistakes that occur during the break up period and also greatly increase your odds of getting your ex boyfriend back into your arms.
First I wanted to tell you I know how you feel, I got dumped by my boyfriend (at the time) and I went through hell. Not only that but despite my best efforts, I managed to push him even further away instead of bringing him back.
O.K. to learn how to get your ex boyfriend back you’ll first need to do some mayor damage control. First, stop all communication you may have had with your ex till this point. Seriously stop phoning him, texting, emailing and/or stalking him or his social networking profile. It’s not hot and it will not spark the attraction between the two of you again.
The thing is your ex boyfriend fell in love with you for some reason and it was certainly not because you were desperate, needy and scared of loosing him. When the two of you first meet you were this easy going, confident person and that is who he fell in love it.
I understand you want to get him back but you need to learn how to spark the attraction between the two of you before you may discuss being in a relationship with him again. Men tend to be very visual creatures and when they see you are a crying mess they just can’t feel the attraction they once did… they may feel sorry for you but that will not help you find out how to get your ex boyfriend back.
So next step (after you cut of ALL communication with your ex boyfriend) is to pull your self back up by focusing on looking and feeling better. I know it takes time to completely change the way you look, we’re not aiming for extreme make over here, just to freshen you up a bit. Join the gym! This will not only help you look better but you’ll feel much happier and more relaxed after working out, no need to over do it, 30 minutes to start with and gradually increase to 45.
Get some new cloths and a cool new hair cut or hair color. You may also try to withen you teeth, there are tons of home kits that really take of a few shades of your teeth. Also try out a new look, something you never thought you may pull of, you might be surprised.
The list above is not just meant for you to find out how to get your ex boyfriend back by sparking attraction but also to help him create a new memory of you. I know I’m not making much sense so I’ll try to explain. Like I said men are very visual and they tend to associate image (you) with behavior (you begging him to take your back or fighting with him) and the emotion that it causes (avoiding you), so we need to create a new association circle. Your new look + your old/new behavior (the one you displayed when you first started dating) = his desire to spend a lot more time with a person who kind of looks like his ex girlfriend but a hotter, more fun version. Girlfriend 2.0
Last step to spark attraction is to call him up for a cup of coffee (don’t go for dinner, it might sound like a date and scare him off) and flirt like there is no tomorrow. Really just enjoy his company and have fun with your ex! It will help you both create new, happy memories together.
This is the formula that will help you crack the how to get your ex back code for good!